Working On Yourself? Cool!……Here Is What Nobody Will Tell You!

A long time ago I had to read Socrates for a college philosophy class and the search for true wisdom intrigued me. I’m sure that I flunked the class but thats beside the point. I grew as a person. Try to be positive about my growth. Anyway, something about going down that rabbit-hole just sent me on the path to trying to be a better person. I always was a decent person but I realized that I had gotten a little off the beaten path and that I could do better. I figured I was young and as we age we get smarter and just don’t do as much dumb stuff. You get wiser. You learn from the stupid mistakes of your youth. That is how it is done. Common sense. Everybody is doing it and eventually I will have to get on board. I looked forward to eating at the big table with the grown-ups and not being a jerk. WRONG! There are a few important details that life didn’t tell me about my path to enlightenment.

First, nobody told me that I would lose family members. How did life leave that important tid bit out? Your Dad has been doing his thing for a long time and the last person he wants to listen to break down life for him is his child who he used to wipe their……. Aunt Penny? She actually is an embecile. She has been an embecile her whole life. Everybody in the famly knows she is embecile. You just didn’t get it because at the time you were even dumber than her. She isn’t going to change anytime soon and you speaking wisdom to her is just going to ruin the relationship. Go ahead and make the family sit through a long blessing while the food is smelling good because you want to share with everybody how gratefull you are. Go ahead and try it. When you don’t get invited to Sunday dinner just remember that I told you.

Oh! You will lose friends. No question. It’s going to happen. I would go so far as to say that you really haven’t changed much if you haven’t been cut off by a friend yet. It is a barometer for success. Your whole circle will change. Period. You might understand how they might not want to hear your jailhouse philosophy from a person that they used to do jello shots with but it gets worse. You actually won’t want to talk to them as much either. It will feel wierd and a little guilt will enter but it is part of the process. I’m sorry, but if your relationships are the same then you probably haven’t made the change that you think you have.

You have worked really hard to fill your head with all of this wisdom and you want to share and help others to find a more peaceful way of navigating this world. Outstanding! Good for you! Except 90% of the people you are going to talk to don’t want to hear your opinion. To have to keep it to yourself seems pointless and almost criminal but that’s the gig. Save yourself. They could care less that your life is great. You are actually making them mad and they think you are a little wierd. Put the prayer beads away. You’re scaring the children.

Here it is. Just because you have made it a priority to be a better person nobody said that everybody else was making it a priority as well. Wisdom does not come with age. Most older people are just as ignorant as they were when they were young. Unhappy people HATE happy people. It’s a fact! If you are in a really good place then you pissed off a percentage of people in the room when you walked in and there is nothing you can do about it. Drama loves drama and you are jacking up the flow with your peace when it comes to some people. Stop it. It is one of the most hurtful lessons in life to find out that loves ones, friends, co-workers, church members, atheletes, actors, doctors, lawyers, politicians, pastors and a long list of people who we put on pedastals are actually very flawed and hurting like everybody else. However, if you work on yourself and have yourself in a good place then every once in a while you will get the opportunity to say or do something for somebody else that is life changing. And those moments are golden. Also, your life will be exponentially better! So, there’s that. I like to be transparent and give options.

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