Sorry, Not Sorry!

What up with the whole asking for an apology thing? I have a real problem with it. I have to go ahead and call it what it is………this might not be a proper blog. This is probably going to be an good old-fashioned Rant and all over the place. I really don’t understand the concept. A parent forces their kid to apologize to somebody else’s kid who they did something jacked up to. That one I will take. That is about it. That is more about the parent saying I am sorry that my kid is showing his butt. Forcing public apologies? For what? Making an apology part of a punishment? Why? Telling somebody that the relationship can’t go forward until they apologize? What a waste of time. Let me cut to the chase……….The ONLY apology that matters is one that comes honestly and ernestly and without any kind of push. That’s it! Anything else is just information. Valuable information but still just information. An apology……..nahhhh!

This thing of asking for public apologies is nuts. The bigger you are then the bigger your apology must be. You have to have a press conference on the court-house steps where you admit how horrible a person you are and how you have changed for the better. The more crying you do, the better. The mob needs to see you crushed. They must see regret all over your face and in every ounce of your being. People really love it if your life goes in the crapper because of your mistake. That is what is required of a proper apology. Guess what people? If the apology comes with any of the things that I just listed then the only thing that the offender is sorry about is that they got caught. They will probably do it again but just find a better way of doing it the next time. You have wasted a great deal of time waiting for an apology.

Apology as part of a punishment? Get out of here! Why would that carry any weight at all? This one is easy. This is ONLY happening because the offender doesn’t want the punishment to be worse. You might want to grade them on their acting chops but that is about it.

The relationship can’t go forward without an apolgy? Congrats! You just got away with another offense. All you have to do is apologize and maybe sleep a night or two on the couch but you will survive this one. This person wants to hear your crappy apology and not deal with the offense. You are free to give an oscar winning apology and then after a brief break go back to doing what you do.

An apology is given without anybody ever asking. It is given because a person thought back about their behavior and feels horrible. The offender wants you to know that the thing will never happen again. That the bahavior was out of character and you will not see it again. You will see it in the persons behavior. Anything else is pointless as far as apologies go. However, it still has value. It tells you about what type of person you are dealing with. It gives you so much information that will help you in the future in dealing with that person. Don’t waste your time getting mad. Thank them for giving you all of the info you needed to go forward. Thank them for being upfront and consistent. No apologies necessary!

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