To Be Honest………..Yeah. Right!

I would like to take this time to bring to light another phrase that we can just let go. A perfectly innocent and well meaning little piece of normal conversation that I believe people truly mean when they say it. When used it is suppposed to change the vibe of the moment to let everybody know that what follows has a completely different set of rules. What you are about to hear is what I call a “golden nugget.” If you were not paying attention to anything else in the lecture, meeting, sermon etc then you need to splash some water on your face and log in. When you hear it the skies clear, the angels sing, everybody sits up in their chairs and it is “go” time. What I’m saying is that I’m sad. I’m sad that no matter how many times I heard “To Be Honest” today not one of them meant a dang thing. I didn’t even bat an eyelash. It meant absolutely nothing and it is sad.

What is really sad is the death of integrity. INTEGRITY – adherence to moral and ethical priciples;soundness of moral character. Admit it. You giggled a little just now. Just reading the definition of integrity in todays climate is comical. Thats just not what we do presently. I truly don’t know where to start. So, I think the answer is to not start at all. No need in breaking down how we got here or how crazy our modern atmosphere is. It is pointless. A complete waste of time and energy. And it’s depressing. I was told as a child to believe none of what you hear and half of what you see. At the time, I felt that the phrase was pretty accurate. Pathetic but accurate. Not now. We are living in the time of AI. It makes me think of another phrase from my youth. “Are you going to believe me or your lying eyes.” Funny, right? It was funny most of my life but today that phrase has merit. “To Be Honest” is dead! It is just reality. It is just another part of speech and it don’t mean jack.

What does have meaning today? Likes. We will say anything to get them. Comments. A meeting with potentially millions of attendees who all get to do their thing unchecked. Jobs. Your co-workers (as nice as they are) will watch you burn before they speak truth if it possibly affects their job situation. The mob. Belonging to the group and not getting kicked out is the most important thing to most people. And the most important one is………..Feelings. The sweetest and most well-meaning person you know will choose their feelings over almost anything or anybody when it comes to protecting themselves. Go ahead and re-read that last section as many times as you need to. Copy and paste it into your notes section or something. I don’t care what you do. I need you to understand that it is all true and it is a part of what you need to know as you navigate this life. No need to get upset. It is what it is. Move on. “To be honest” is right up there with “How are you?”

What do you do about it? Put your big boy pants on and use your brain. Use your five senses and figure it out for yourself. Your have been given a gift. A cool little quiz that will make you a better person when it is over. I have a red “stop” button in my head. I push it as soon as I hear something that doesn’t sound right. As soon as something doesn’t add up or my spider senses start tingling I bookmark that moment. That moment or info needs to be vetted. Don’t get bogged down in “that @#$% is lying.” Don’t take it personal. Don’t automatically go to that person means you harm. Don’t call them out or make a thing of it unless it will truly help. That is simply your homework. You now get the opportunity to find out the truth for yourself. You will come out of the other side a much wiser person who can speak on that moment with a different level of gravitas. And…….you learned something about the person who was less than forthcoming. Not that they are bad people or want to see harm come to you but that they WILL choose something else from the list over integrity. That word has no meaning to them.

To be honest………..It was really cool hanging on the words of my parents, teachers, pastors, cops, politicians(maybe I’m reaching with that one), friends or anybody that just seemed like the word “integrity” had meaning to them. It was comforting knowing that when a person said “To Be Honest” it was personal. You knew that you were about to get insider information and that your relationship just changed. You had a bond. A moment. You felt protected by the warm comfy feeling of good vibes. Well stop! Those days are gone. No need to cry. To Be Honest?…………yeah right!

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